yes it is harder on a man.. We are the rock in the home ! The provider! The Guardian. The keeper of the security and peace. the King. and it is hard to let go of that!! it is like ripping our heart and soul out and saying you are only here to get better. we hate to be nurtured and it goes against our tough guy Chuck Norris Image of our selves. it is a hard blow to our ego to be told your no longer in control of your home and your family. it is your wife's job now.. and being too proud to talk to your spouse is even harder. Some medication or some human therapy might be some good in this situation. It is not really your husband being your husband it is what the disease has brought on that is scaring and bothering him I think.
When Deb stopped working and took care of the house it was ok by me because we made ends meet. she did what she wanted to do and i supported her so the roles were reversed but being one of a handful of guys here this is my take on things.. I hope he gets some support and help and some peace and comfort for both of you.. Love peace and hugs to both..
April/03 My Wife Deborah, age 46, diagnosed adenocarcinoma NSCLC
1/20/2006 Admitted to hospital Respiratory distress
1/23/2006 Ran to the light and is waiting for us to be rejoined in the Kingdom Of Heaven Her journey is Over but mine lingers on for Now!!!
4/23/07 DEb is joined in Peace by her Puppy Dawg Daisy from Cancer
8/30/07 Got new Pup named Mocha!!
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