I'm taking care of my husband who is doing very well with his cancer treatments so far but I could use a buddy who is in the same situation that can relate to all the pain and depression as a cargiver.

Coni what part of the world are you in? Or where are you better yet! We have members all over theworld and you never know there may be someone down the street from you! We linked 2 members up face to face in chat the other nite!!!

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April/03 My Wife Deborah, age 46, diagnosed adenocarcinoma NSCLC
1/20/2006 Admitted to hospital Respiratory distress
1/23/2006 Ran to the light and is waiting for us to be rejoined in the Kingdom Of Heaven Her journey is Over but mine lingers on for Now!!!
4/23/07 DEb is joined in Peace by her Puppy Dawg Daisy from Cancer
8/30/07 Got new Pup named Mocha!!

"No matter hnow much it hurts, No matter how alone you feel, Your friends will help you get through anything!!"
Scrubs!!!!Yes the comedy show!!!

The Reason I advocate
If you would like to see our family photos Click on this link!
http://deborah-wallin.memory-of.com/

My memory-of Link is good to go now if you want to see it!!

I'm from northen Calif. where the cows are and all the fires and smoke.. I'm in a small town close to Chico
My hubby is a very private man so I just need or can have a e mail bud right now..or I'll be in the newspaper under obituary (<-- bad spelling sorry)

Bump for anyone in Northern cali area!!!????

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April/03 My Wife Deborah, age 46, diagnosed adenocarcinoma NSCLC
1/20/2006 Admitted to hospital Respiratory distress
1/23/2006 Ran to the light and is waiting for us to be rejoined in the Kingdom Of Heaven Her journey is Over but mine lingers on for Now!!!
4/23/07 DEb is joined in Peace by her Puppy Dawg Daisy from Cancer
8/30/07 Got new Pup named Mocha!!

"No matter hnow much it hurts, No matter how alone you feel, Your friends will help you get through anything!!"
Scrubs!!!!Yes the comedy show!!!

The Reason I advocate
If you would like to see our family photos Click on this link!
http://deborah-wallin.memory-of.com/

My memory-of Link is good to go now if you want to see it!!

What about LillyJohn... isnt she the one thats always posting about the fires by her? I think thats the right person... i know that its lilly... maybe i should check first before speaking.. lol

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3/05-4/05 Dad had a "cold" that jsut wouldnt go away. Used Zpak 3 times and no results. MD sends Dad for a CT scan. Results come back and it happens to have scaned low enough to see "something" in the liver. Dad is sent for another scan, then a biopsy.
Dad diagnosed with stage 4 metastaic SCLC with mets to liver in April 2005.
Was on continuous Chemo for the whole time.. with no actual improvement until this las ct scan (feb) never had a real progression in his tumors either.. always "stable disease" Battled a few episodes in the hospital with pneumonia, MRSA and neutropenia,(caused by adramycin). was give a 18month life expectancy at diagnosis.. went into hospital on 3/20/08 with pneumonia, we all expected him to get better like usual, went down hill, had fluid on the outside of left lung, didnt want to remove thought it would be too risky. after 2 weeks sent to ICU with CHF, SOB on high flow oxygen. told after a day there that there was nothing more they could do and he was getting close to reqiuring a vent and was told that if that happened he would not come off it. April 1st:Made him a DNR and took him out of ICU and put on inpatient hospice. Amazingly (not kidding here) he got better with in the first hour of being on the new unit. He gave us 3 great days with him, first time I heard him laugh in a long time. 4/3 took a turn for the worse, thought he would go over night, was better in am even up eating pancakes when i got to hospital.. 4/7 decided to bring Dad home with hopsice.. got home on 4/10.. even went to his favorite resturant that night. Had a ok week there after, 4/19 had rough overnight, fell out of bed and fell while being helped from bathroom. 4/20~Dad got to enjoy the spring weather one last time, went for walk in wheelchair. 4/21 started to take the turn. 4/24.. called nurse at noon, she said anytime now... called famliy and we sat with him all day... 11:55pm.. Dad passes while holding my hand. He was only 57 yrs old.

*Avitar is of me and my Brother Pete and 2 of our friends at a Packer game*

Our fathers depart,
but never their love
and never ther lessons
they've taught us,
never their guidance,
never their blessings,
never the joys
they've brought us.

~Shelli~

lilyjohn is the right person... Coni, you could pm her.. (sorry if you already got this info)

Hey Coni, I live in Weed. I'm survivor,not caretaker. But would be happy to helpout anyway I can. Barb

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BAC dx'd Oct 2000, age 46, Stage IB?
upper&middle right lobes resected
12.5 cm tumor with 0.1 mm hilar margin
Carboplatin Nov&Dec 2000
Radiation to lower right lobe Nov&Dec 2000
All CT/PET OK since resection
May 06, 2 stents to right coronary artery

Hi Coni,

I was the caregiver to my husband until he passed away a few months ago. I'm available if you want a buddy. (I'm in Los Angeles.) I will PM you with my email addy.

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Hubby 56 - smoker, stage IV adenocarcinoma nsclc with mets all over the place.

9/07 - started snoring
10/07 - small pimple on chin
11/07 - pimple hurts
12/3/07 - dr refers to dermatologist
12/10/07 - severe back pain - dr thinks kidney stones and does ultrasound/mri/ct - tests show small lesions, but discounted and referred to urologist
12/12/07 - vists dermatologist who believes lesion is cancer, but not melanoma - biopsy done and surgery scheduled for Jan 10
12/21/07 - vision problems in left eye - off to eye doc
12/25/07 - strange bump on left arm
12/28/07 urologist gives all clear
1/4/08 - retina specialist sees something odd on eye ultrasound and refers to another eye doc
1/7/08 - eye doc confirms tumor in left eye and refers to oncologist
1/9/08 - went to oncologist who ordered whole battery of tests
1/17/08 - PET scan was bad; no primary found, but suspicious area in left lung and mets to ribs, vertebrae, kidneys, adrenal gland, and brain
1/24/08 - began 4wks of radiation to eye and chin to deal with pain/blurred vision
2/6/08 - lymph node biopsy positive
2/14/08 - tissue sent for targeted therapy testing
2/22/08 - finished radiation
3/3/08 - whole body/joint pain & chin/lip doesn't look good - has a hole in his lip/chin!
3/4/08 - went to oncologist for fluids & IV pain meds/antibiotics
3/5/08 - can't stand body pain & admitted to hospital
3/10/08 - released from hospital
3/12/08 - received good targeted therapy results and bone scan showed more possible illness, received chemo plan
3/13/08 - started carbo/gemzar
3/20/08 - gemzar
3/26/08 - severe pain - painful to walk or stand
3/27/08 - admitted to hospital for MRI and 10 days of radiation to shrink tumor on spine causing pain
3/28/08 - severe reaction to Oxycontin
3/29/08 - transferred to ICU with pneumonia, breathing problems and kidney failure
3/30/08 - put on respirator
4/3/08 - off respirator and slowly recovering
4/10/08 - vomited and inhaled into lungs; back on respirator
4/17/08 - off respirator
4/18/08 - pneumonia again, I refused respirator
4/19/08 - my wonderful husband is gone forever