My question is this: does the chemo really make you that exhausted that just getting in & out of a car completely drains you? Is she so tired because she's not doing anything or is she not doing anything because she's so tired?
Yes it's normal and it's not excessive.
Chemotherapy is poison. Not only does it kill the bad cells, but the good ones as well.
Your mom is fighting from within. THings like side effects, low blood counts, dehydration and her entire system is being invaded by poison.
My dad very rarely left the house...his fatigue was extreme. Blood transfusions and iron supplements helped a little, but it was really rough.
I've heard many survivors say that during their chemotherapy they were couch -bound and couldn't do anything.
THink about if you've ever had a a stomach bug, how much energy and how exhausted you are after having vomitted....imagine feeling that way 24/7. Or if you've ever run track....that feeling like you've just run a marathon or sparing match....your body feels like that everyday.
Some people do have an easier time of it, other's rebound after months or maybe become more used to the process, and some, like my dad, never felt better unless he was in the middle of a chemo break.
I even catch her lying to her Dr & nurses about the real way she's been feeling. So, I don't trust her when I'm not there to tell me how she's really feeling. I'm concerned that she's hiding a lot more than I know and that she's more sick than shes letting on.
She probably is. She's your mom. And she's naturally a "strong" woman, so she wants to be viewed in that way,and as a mom she doesn't want you to worry.
Keep the lines of communication open. Especially in terms of her health. Talk to the medical team yourself if you are concerned she isn't telling them everything. My dad was the same way...always said "fine", never complaining....trying to be strong for us.
Your mom will know that you are a safe place to fall and confide in you if she needs to. You can be the bridge between what she isn't saying to the Dr. with what the full story is.
I'm so glad your mom has you and it sounds like she's really glad you're her primary caregiver too.
Don't stop asking her to do things nad to engage. She may surprise you one day and feel like venturing out. Keep your eye on dehydration and just love your time together.
I hope things turn around for the better soon,
- Katie Brown, Co-Founder and Director of LCSC-
15 yr cancer survivor.
"Any of us who have experienced the cancer journey- and survived it-
have an obligation to make the path clearer and aid those that come after us."
- Lance ArmstrongIn memory of Jessee Dewey, SCLC
December 29, 1938 - September 6, 2003
Lisa Dewey- Jan. 22, 2007my parents are together in heaven