Welcome to LCSC,I am so sorry to read of your Mums dx,there are many wonderful LC survivors here that will share their experiences with you and help lighten the burden you are carrying.
Nearly 4 years have passed since my dx,your post reminds me of the anxieties that both me my family and friends went through at the time.I had the feeling that my world had come crashing down on me,I had no future,no light at the end of tunnel,comforting words from all around me could not dispel the thoughts that I had,that this disease was going to kill me and in the not too distant future.
As my treatment plan was introduced to me,chemo and possibly surgery if the chemo was successful in reducing my tumour to a operable size,now I started to worry,will the chemo make me extremely nauseous?,will my hair fall out?,(dont mind the gray ones) will my surgery be extremely painful and leave me a breathless invalid?,what if the surgery is unsuccessful?,you name it,I probably worried about that too.
Well I promise you for all my worries,I sailed through all my treatments,nothing of my dark imaginings came even close to being realised.I have since my operation in January 2009 no further treatments.
I still struggled mentally with my cancer,now, I did my research,I devoured all the books in my library on cancer,looking for that elusive good news that I can survive this disease,very often I was disapointed,the stats were'nt good either,then one day I picked up a newspaper,in it, an article on a guy who was setting up a lung cancer support group in a hospital near to my home.I read on, this guy was amazing, he was all I hoped I would find one day-a real life long term survivor.His name is Robert Lowe,dxd with SCLC in 1993,given two months by his medical team to live,he asks for the best option for a treatment that can extend his life,he receives a chemo regime that leaves him so ill,that his family was called to his bedside on more than one occassion as his doc did'nt think Robert would see the next day,well unbelievably,to his doctors Robert makes a full recovery,in 2007 he is then dxd with NSCLC has chemo and surgery.
I have just got to meet this guy,and I did,I joined his support group,by co-incidence Robert 10 years my senior was born and brought up in the same district in Glasgow as myself,we went to the same schools,even shared the same teachers,we had so much in common not forgetting a Glasgow sense of humour,Robert now 72,will celebrate next year his twentyth LC anniversary.It is of course my intention to follow in Roberts footsteps.LOL.
I appreciate not every LC survivor will be a Robert Lowe,but I have since discovered there are many others who are long term survivors,so there is hope for everyone however bleak things may initially seem.Please pass onto your Mum my best wishes and that she has every success with her ongoing treatments.Things do with the passage of time improve,take one day at a time,I know it sounds a bit trite,but it does hold true.A saying I heard recently rung true with me "Worry is like sitting in a rocking chair,it gives you something to do,but you dont get anywhere".So for all the many hours I had worrying going through my treatments they were a waste of time,everything turned out well for me.God Bless.
To read my story, please follow the link : http://lungevity.org/l_community/viewtopic.php?t=43268